I read this quote on Titter: “Never let someone be your priority, while you remain their option.” I can’t find out who originally quoted it, but it really struck a chord for me. Thanks @ihatequotes for posting it!
In my life, I have made a lot of people my priority – sometimes to my deficit. Their needs came first – their wants came first – and sometimes if their needs and wants were too much, I would just stop doing some things for myself. And when I was romantically involved – there was no doubt in anyone’s mind that the guy was a priority to me – above pretty much all else (not really a good thing).
In my life now, I feel like I am an option to just about everybody – the only person that I think I am a priority to is my Dad. I think my Dad puts me way up toward the top – but he still tends to look out for himself then next is my mom (rightly so!) I don’t have a friend that I think I am a priority to – and to most I am definitely sure they consider me an option. Now, onto the kicker for me – I am not even a priority to my boyfriend of four years. I think I was when we were dating, but I haven’t been one in a long time. If he’d say I am, maybe that would be once in a blue moon.
Through the 4 years+ of our relationship, I have tried to make him a priority – and I definitely have been there WHENEVER and WHATEVER way he has needed me (in good times and in bad and even in worse; in sickness and in health – and boy we’re not even married yet! I also have trust issues with him about having other girls aside from me. Why? because just last year, he promised me after discovering that he had another girlfriend (oh this was not the first time) he flirted with two girls! I don’t know what I’d feel. The thing that pisses me off more than anything about that situation is I gave up so much, such as school, to be with him because I believed in and trusted him. And yet he still has the guts to do all these kind of stuffs to me?
For those of you who don’t know him, he’s a good guy. Maybe we’re just not at the same page right now. It’s just so disappointing. Or maybe I’m overreacting, but this is what I feel. I just hope that it wouldn’t be too late for him to realize this and know my worth. *sigh
In 2011, my year of possibilities, I am choosing to be my own priority and not anyone’s option. Don’t know whether you are someone’s option or priority let me help you: Being an option is not a relationship; you are just filling a void for that particular time and place. You probably see each other when it is convenient for the other person, without them considering if it works for you. When you are an option, you can solely be a collector’s item added to the gallery of various other treasures, just to stroke their ego. Being an option means getting that last minute call when all their other plans have fallen through and you are their last resort.
Being a priority is being in a relationship; it does not need to be spoken where and with whom you are spending your free time, you both are making time for each other according to both schedules and are making plans in advance. Being a priority is like being a rare one of a kind precious item that someone will whole-heartedly cherish and will always be the featured showcase, their pride and joy. It means going on dates, having good conversations, meeting the important people in his/ her life. If you are a priority and it’s important to him/her then they should make an effort to incorporate you into their life and vice versa.
I would like to be a priority in someone’s life (besides my Dad). It makes me sad to think about it too much.